Before the trip begins

We are counting down to departure time.  Seeing friends we won’t see for the next 6 weeks.  Finishing jobs around the house and garden.  Paying bills.  Arranging cat care.  Making lists; shopping.  Getting blood pressure, eyes, heart checked.  Getting teeth cleaned.

Jerry still has some work to do on the camper, he says.  “What work?” I ask.  “Oh, some wiring, putting some things away.” He answers.

We had dinner with my cousins, John and Betsy, on Sunday.  Tonight we have dinner with Cathy and Russ who will take care of our yard while we are gone.  Tomorrow night with Ria and Basil.  And Easter Sunday we go down to daughter Deborah’s for dinner.  She will have roast lamb and Greek salad, and my grandson James and his wife Maria will bring a sticky-toffee pudding.  Most important, they will bring my great grandson, Julian.  I have not seen Julian since Christmas.  I’m taking my camera, so be warned.  There will be baby pictures on this site before I go to Alaska!

In the mean time everything outside is growing.  The daffodils are fading, the hyacinths still going strong.  In the middle of winter I found a bag of blue hyacinths I had forgotten to plant.  I stuck them into pots and the front garden and they came up like gang-busters.

Blue hyacinths

Blue hyacinths

The birds swarm all over the feeder and the suet cake.  There are chickadees and sparrows and finches and blue jays and juncos.  No grosbeaks as yet.  Big handsome flickers gobble up the suet.

White iberis drapes over the rocks at the side of the house.

Iberis

Iberis

Jerry mows the lawn whenever the weather dries a little.  A storm is brewing just now.  We have wind warnings of 50 miles an hour or more.

Last night after Mah Jongg I had to drive Betsy home because her phone didn’t seem to work when she called John to come and get her.  It was a black wet night and waves were crashing over the sea wall at Village Point.  The car got salt water on it and bits of wood debris hit the side.

Today the trees are swooping and diving in the wind.

Windy day

Windy day

A power loss is almost certain in this kind of weather.

When I get to our dear little house in Manley Hot Springs I plan to spend as much time as possible in my upstairs studio painting.  I will have a show in Bellingham with a fellow Lummi Island painter, Ingrid McGarry, in September.  I need to get some new work ready for it.

I have a stack of books to read.  Mostly science, but some poetry.

It will be good to see our friends, the Reddingtons and Linda who live across the road in Manley.  Perhaps I’ll have a moose dinner.  I like moose.

If there isn’t too much snow in the woods Jerry and I will walk with the poodles up the hill to the mining road every evening.  I love that walk. Spring is so speedy in Alaska that in a period of a few weeks the woods are transformed.  New things grow up overnight on the forest floor.  The days linger long as summer gallops in.

The last week in May we start for home.  I wonder what stories I will have to tell you then.

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The Camper, the chickens and the eggs

As soon as my new glasses are ready to pick up Jerry and I will set out for Alaska in our new (to us) truck camper.

We found this camper on Craig’s List and made 2 trips to Gig Harbor to finalize the purchase.

The first trip, a distance of about 100 miles, we drove down on I 5, past many RV sales lots which had no customers but row upon row of shining white behemoths bearing names on the side like “Wilderness Explorer” or “Rifle and Rod”.  We had shopped a few of those lots, an experience which I found utterly disconcerting.  It was a world of big plastic, of hard sell, of smiling idle men who I imagined living lives of precarious tedium.  What we wanted, a small lightweight camper, was not to be had.

With the help of our GPS device we located the Craig’s list camper in Gig Harbor.  It belonged to a man, about 40, with 2 pre-teen boys.  He met us at his house which was at the end of a dead end dirt road.  The modest house was surrounded by acres of land that looked recently cleared.  Each of the 2 boys was riding a 4 wheeler, zooming around the empty lot, kicking up dirt and gravel.  There was a big chicken coop near the house.  The man said his name was Greg, and the camper had belonged to his father who had recently died.

It was about as small as a truck back camper can get.

The camper with top down

The camper with top down

The top pops up, and the bed fits over the cab.

Camper with top popped up

Camper with top popped up

It has a table, a stove, a refrigerator and a sink, all mini.  It has no bathroom (not enough space), but Greg showed us the little port-a-potty that his father had installed (it fits under the table and can be pulled out) “for his girl-friend so she could pee in the night without going outside.”

The camper, called Starcraft, had stickers the shapes of each of the 48 States where Greg’s father had traveled.  I thought about this man who had visited all those States with his girlfriend.  I asked Greg his father’s name.  It was Roger, he said, with a catch in his voice.  Roger had died three months ago, and it was still new and painful.  He was a man who never went to the doctor.  He had been ill with a cough, and finally, when his breathing became so labored that he couldn’t walk, they called 911.  He went to the hospital, but it was too late.  He died of pneumonia.  He was 74, 3 years younger than Jerry and me.

Jerry and Greg began to go over the technical aspects of the camper: the wiring, the propane, the waste disposal, the supports.
I wandered over to the chicken coop.  It was muddy and wet, but the chickens were healthy and handsome.  They strutted and clucked and fixed me with a gaze of round eyed alertness.  There were a couple of roosters.

Gregs chickens

Gregs chickens

I told Greg that I plan to get chickens.  He enthusiastically took me on a tour of his chicken coop and described his breeds and his methods.  When we went back for the second time to pick up the camper he insisted that we go home with eggs.  He gave us 8 cartons of 18 eggs each.

I distributed eggs to those of my Mah Jongg friends who don’t themselves keep chickens.  Jerry and I are still using the last dozen and a half.

Jerry has been over every inch of the camper since we brought it home.  He has tested all of its equipment, cleaned the inside, washed the covers of the benches and mattress, cleaned the woodwork and mended some of the interior walls where he thought moisture might be getting in.  He kept an infra red light inside it for many days to make sure it dried out completely.  He built new and better supports to keep it steady in the truck bed.  I know that when we set out he will know how everything works and everything will work.  What a man!

camper interior right side

camper interior right side

He took off all of Rodger’s State stickers.  I asked him why, and he said, “They were peeling, and I didn’t like them anyway.”

camper interior left side

camper interior left side

I am trying to prepare myself for this trip.  I am looking forward to it, and just a little apprehensive about finding places where we can legally park to camper overnight.  I know it will be an adventure.

I’ll think of Roger.

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Nixon in China in Vancouver

Jerry doesn’t want to go to the opera.  After almost 4 years of marriage I am coming to terms with things on which we differ.  There is so much we agree about, even, these days, politics (at first we had some differences about that).  Neither of us likes to watch TV, neither of us is interested in sports, both of us are interested in science and we like to read and learn about it.  We discuss a wide range of subjects, we kiss and cuddle, walk together, drink wine together, work on various projects around the house together and he likes my cooking.  We are friends and lovers.

But he won’t go to the opera, so if I want to go (and I do) I either have to go alone or find someone to go with.

I bought 2 tickets to Nixon in China – yes, that’s an opera – and my lawyer daughter, Deborah, took me.  It was wonderful.

She drove up from where she lives on Whidbey Island and picked me up at the ferry on the mainland side.  Then she drove me to Vancouver.  We went early so we would have time for any form of frivolity that we might fancy.  We went to the Indian neighborhood and browsed the shops.  Deborah makes Easter baskets for her whole family so she bought trinkets with an East Indian flavor to put in the baskets.  Stuff like spangled pillow covers for her grown up daughter and figurines of Ganeshes and other gods.  The store owner told us long stories about Indian gods. Then we went to an Indian grocery store and looked at all the exotic foods and spices.  Deborah bought many things to make curries with.  I bought pickled green pepper corns and saffron.

Next we drove to our prearranged (by Deborah) downtown hotel.  A nice young man whisked the car away, while another nice young man took our bags and other things inside.  Our room was on the 10th floor and had a good view of city streets and tall buildings.  It was small, but comfortable, with crisp white linens and white-sheet duvet covers that make one feel that everything on the bed was freshly washed.  Bathrobes were provided.

I said, “We should have bought a bottle of wine.”

Deborah said, “We’ll go down to the bar and have a drink.  I want a martini.”
The bar was elegant; it was decorated in a streamlined Art Deco style – simple and soothing.  Deborah chatted and joked with the waiter and the bartender.  She had a sugary sweet fruit martini.  I had a glass of red wine.

Next we dressed for the opera.  Deborah wore black pants and a jacket and top with black and blue spangled paisley figures on it.  She glittered.  I wore a black wool skirt and a black silk jacket lined with red silk that my ex-husband, Hugh, brought back from a business trip to Hong Kong many years ago.  I usually wear that to the opera.

We walked to a fancy French restaurant where Deborah had made reservations.  Waiters hovered.  I thanked the boy who poured our water, and he murmured, “My  pleasure.”

The food was excellent.  We both had fresh halibut which has just come in season here in the northwest.  We speculated about the opera.  I had been told by a friend here on the island that it was “very political”.  Deborah had read about it on Wikipedia.  She said that there was a well know aria “I am the wife of Chairman Mao.”  I had heard an orchestral excerpt, “The Chairman Dances” on the radio, and my friend said the music was modern.  But neither Deborah nor I really knew what to expect.

When we were settled in our seats in the renovated Queen Elizabeth Theater (in the balcony, but still $80 a ticket), I looked through opera glasses at the curtain covering the stage, which I had mistakenly thought had a repeat floral design; the flowers were faces of Chinese people.   As the house darkened and the orchestra began to play the faces faded from the curtain and clouds appeared, then through the clouds the plane Air Force One materialized.  As the overture ended the plane landed and a chorus which could be seen in silouette behind the translucent curtain began to sing hauntingly.

The sets were stark and simple, but made to look magical with elaborate lighting effects and splashes of red.

There were 6 main characters wonderfully portrayed.  Nixon, shallow, paranoid, speaking in clichés and slogans; Pat Nixon, simple, childlike and naïve, sometimes puzzled, sometimes horrified by what she saw, Kissenger, lustful and devious, Chairman Mao, old, crusty, repeating revolutionary dogma and living in the past, Madam Mao, angry, defiant and afraid, and finally, Chou En-lai the philosopher, the thinker, questioning the value of the revolution.

There was a spectacular ballet sequence in the second act in which a young girl, dressed in brilliant red, is whipped for being insufficiently revolutionary.  The other characters watch as if in a theater.  Pat cries, “Stop them! Stop them!” Nixon says, “It’s just a play, dear, you’ll see, she will get up in the end.”

The people sitting next to us left after the second act.  We spent the intermissions (there were 2) waiting in line for the toilets (no line for the men’s room) and commenting on the way people dress at the opera.  They wear everything from the most outré evening dress to hiking clothes.

The music is modern, with elements of big band music that came from about the time of Nixon’s visit to China.  Nixon dances with Pat, and after a bit Madam Mao grabs the Chairman’s hand and says, “Come on, we’ll show these mother fuckers how to dance.”  Then all four do a sort of jitter bug.

There were no pretty arias, and it must have been extremely difficult to sing.  I found the music interesting, and it certainly matched the subject matter and themes.

The libretto was poetry, sprinkled with revolutionary slogans from the Chinese, and patriotic slogans from Nixon.  It was written by a poet, Alice Goodman, and I think is a masterpiece.  The language is simple and yet the ideas are complex.  It has the essence of revolutionary thought, of the Chinese past, of American culture and of the fears and hopes of everyman.

I thought it was great art and great theater.  I loved it.

We walked back to the hotel in a light rain.

The next day Deborah went to church and I went to a book store.  I bought a book for Jerry, The Ascent of Money: A Financial History of the World by Niall Ferguson.

At the border driving home we ran out of gas.  After a lot of consultation and long inspection of our passports the heavily armed border guards permitted us to walk to a nearby gas station with a can for gas.
I was a bit late coming home, and tired.  But it was worth it.

I’d do it again in a revolutionary minute.

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Stuffing my head with rocks

When I was 12 years old I spent the summer with my grandmother, Julia (called Julie by her family including all her grandchildren), in Maine.  My grandmother had lived for years in Italy but left because of WW II.  She and I were staying at the house of her friend, Elizabeth Holt.  Elizabeth wrote books on art history, and my grandmother made herself useful by translating Italian articles and documents.

By the time she was a widow, Julie had gone through most of her capital – some was lost in the depression.  She was a good-looking, witty and charming woman (sometimes known in her family as the Duchess) and she had many friends who found it agreeable to have her stay for extended periods.  She found it convenient and profitable to live on friends when possible.

I am not sure I was a desirable adjunct in Elizabeth’s household, but they found uses for me.  I was supposed to baby sit Elizabeth’s two pale, skinny kids, and every few days I rowed the garbage out to a channel in the bay where it could be dumped overboard.

I don’t remember actually doing much babysitting, but I really enjoyed the second chore.  As soon as I pushed off in the row boat swarms of sea gulls would glide over and follow me out to the channel.  When I threw the garbage over the side they screamed with excitement, fighting and diving for the delicious treasures, like orange peels and fish heads.

It was a wonderful summer.  There was a boy who took me sailing, and the last evening of the summer we walked together on the beach and we held hands.  I can’t remember his name.

The house was a summer place, simply furnished and minimally equipped.  My grandmother had a few gramophone records which she sometimes let me play, and I grew to love the music from the Cosi Fan Tutte, an opera by Mozart.  There wasn’t much to read, but I found an old textbook of geology.  For some reason it fascinated me, and I learned about igneous, sedimentary and metamorphic rocks.  Maine had plenty of rocks for me to examine.

When I went to college I remembered my early love for rocks.  At Northwestern, where I began, I took a class in geology.  It was deadly boring.  We spent hours measuring things on relief maps.  I got mono and dropped all my classes.

As a biology major I made another stab at geology and signed up for a class in paleontology.  That was another interest killer.  The professor was writing a paper, so he made use of students for the tedious parts.  The paper was about small changes in fossil clam shells over time.  Students sorted and classified fossil clam shells.  That was the entire content of the class.  I dropped it.

All this was before the discovery (really rediscovery) of plate tectonics and continental drift.  That set the world of geology upside down. There was seething controversy: what had been dry and plodding became dynamic and fast changing.  People got furious with each other and called each other names.  Some actually came to blows.  But by that time I had moved on.  Babies and biology had taken over my life.

Half a century later I am reading (bedtime reading aloud to Jerry) a book by John McPhee: Annals of the Former World.  The book is over 600 pages and we are almost to the end.  It is about the history of the world, how it formed, how it changed, how the oceans and land masses came to be and how they change over time.  How life came to be on earth, how the physical world affects life, how life changes the physical world and how they are actually parts of a single whole. It’s about eruptions and earthquakes and unimaginable catastrophes and periods of time so vast that a human life is no more than the blink of an eye.  It’s about rocks: how they form, what they are made of and forces that bend them, fold them, destroy them and recreate them.  Now I am really hooked on geology.  I have to know more.

Geology has an enormous special vocabulary, much of it new to me.  Words like ophiolite, gabbro, diabase, peridotite, syncline, unconformity, zone of subduction, pillow lava and many many more.   I look them up on the Wikipedia.  But I have to know more.

I have bought 2 courses from The Teaching Company, both video college courses on geology.  Jerry and I watch one or two lectures every night.

The first course, which we are about half way through, is taught by John Renton of West Virginia University.  I learned from the internet that Bill Gates likes this course and says it is “phenomenal.”

Dr. Renton is a plump, down to earth fellow.  He presents his material in simple folksy language with concrete examples and explanations.  I am slightly distracted by his luxuriant and shiny red toupee, and his Dali moustache (I found out from Wikipedia that those twirly moustaches are called that).  But I am enjoying the course, and firmly planting in my head all sorts of new (to me) knowledge.  Some of these things I sort of knew, but now they have a structure.

I know that the earth began from a cloud of cosmic debris about 4 ½ billion years ago, and that life began about a billion years later.  In another billion years plate tectonics began, and the continents and oceans formed and began their cyclic breaking apart and coalescing a billion years after that.  These things are happening now, and the Atlantic Ocean is expanding at about the same rate as our finger nails grow.

I know something about the inside of the earth, something about volcanoes, and I know that Yellowstone Park is going to explode any time now with such force that it may destroy civilization as we know it, and perhaps the human race.  There have been great mass extinctions in the past that have killed large numbers of species from just such catastrophes.

Sometimes I ask myself what good it is to learn a lot of new stuff at my age.  My head is already quite full of unused knowledge.  I think of the inside of my head as an endless collection of caverns connected by tunnels and crevasse.  Some of what I knew has fallen into the crevasses.  Some of it is in remote caves but still retrievable.  But I will never again have any practical use for it.

When I die it will all be wasted.  So why bother?  I guess because it gives me pleasure, and that is what is left in old age.  It is something that Jerry and I share and enjoy together.  As we drive to Alaska soon we will look at the mountains and rocks with new insight into their origin and dynamic, knowing that they are always changing.

On the way to Alaska

On the way to Alaska

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There’s no place like home

On Saturday I got up at 6:30 Eastern Time in Charleston at my son’s house.  He and I walked to the nearest open coffee shop where I bought a large cup of coffee for my daughter.  I woke her with the steaming coffee, and in an hour we started the drive to Atlanta to catch our plane for home.  That was the beginning of about 20 hours of travel.  I crawled into bed at my daughter’s house on Whidbey Island at midnight Pacific Time.

It was good to see my sons and their families.  The trip was too hurried and we interrupted the lives of working people, but still, I’m glad we went, and I’m glad we went together.

On this trip I had a flash review of the stages of life.

It has been years since I have traveled with daughter 3, Lawyer Daughter (Deborah).  When she moved out west to go to law school I drove across the country with her and the two kids, Bridget, 4 and Julian, 2.  That was almost 20 years ago.  Bridget has graduated from college and Julian is at the University of Washington.

First Deborah and I visited my youngest son, Ben, in Atlanta.  She is 11 years older than Ben, but they are both loving people and were glad to see each other.  Ben is 38.  He married his childhood sweetheart, Katie, and they have 2 enchanting children.  Jamison is in 1st grade and I went along to her teacher conference.  She is bright and verbal, understands “math concepts” but doesn’t always remember “math facts.”  I think this means that she knows what addition and subtraction are about but doesn’t always remember that 9 + 9 = 18.  I suggested flash cards.  Oh, dear.  Flash cards are apparently out of favor with educators.  The teacher, a nice woman, said we should play games about numbers.

Ben is young enough to feel that life has unexplored possibilities.  He would like to change careers.  He is now the executive chef at a country club, a job he dislikes.   Because of company policies he is obliged to order and serve a lot of pre-prepared food, while he believes that the best meals should come from fresh local ingredients.

Since he was a small child he has been fascinated by the natural world, and especially by snakes and reptiles.  He would like to go back to school, become a field biologist, and perhaps be a forest ranger.  He still has time.

Katie, his wife, is back in school studying to be a nurse anesthetist.  She works long hard hours and the two parents juggle child care.  Katie is home on weekends while Ben works.  Ben is home 2 weekdays while Katie is in school.  The other 3 days they are helped out by Katie’s parents who live nearby.  It is a frantic schedule and they are temporarily short of money without Katie’s comfortable income as a highly trained ICU nurse.

Katie’s parents stopped by to say hello.  I have known them for many years.  We have watched each other grow old.  Bonny said to me, “You look wonderful, Anne, you never change.”  Sweet words, but we both know not true.  I thanked her and thought, “Bonny, you are still a good looking woman, still look like yourself, still look natural, intelligent, and loving.  But older.”

Ben and I took the 2 children to a local nature center where there was a good collection of snakes and a few other reptiles.  Many of the snakes were active so I got lots of movies of slithering snakes with Ben’s non-stop commentary in the background.  For kids everything in the world is new; they were full of excited interest.

Granny (that’s me) took everyone out for Asian food and the next day Deborah and I drove a rented car to Charleston to visit my oldest son, Stevie.  The drive is about 4 ½ hours through gently rolling country with low pine forests and brown fields.  It seems monotonous compared to the dramatic landscape of the west.

When I first saw Stevie I thought he looked thin and pale, but actually I think he is well, though he eats mostly funny sorts of health foods. He constantly exercises at his gym when he isn’t at work treating people who suffer from chronic pain.  Every morning he gets up early and rides his bike to his favorite coffee shop where he sits at his favorite table for 2 hours working on math, physics and biology.  He is writing a paper on something about the physics of cell responses.  I think.  It is full of equations.

Stevie is 19 years older than Ben.  He has already done his career change.  He started as a professor of mathematics.  Now he is a medical doctor.

Steve and Michelle are a devoted couple, but both of them find that aspects of their work and their lives make them unhappy.  They look with trepidation to coming years of late middle age and retirement.  If only they could momentarily share my vantage point of old age they would see lots of time left to do so many things.

Michelle works for the state of South Carolina.  A big part of Boeing is moving to Charleston, and she will be working on finding local people for the new Boeing to employ.  She will have a fine new office with a fine view.

Because Steve and Michelle both had to work while we were there, Deborah and I spent a lot of time together.  We reminisced about years past, and she talked about the law practice that she has with her husband, Chris.  They are now doing well, after the first years of struggle.  Chris is gradually limiting his practice to Social Security, which he enjoys, and Debbie is hoping to specialize in personal injury.  Their youngest child, Clare, is still at home.  She will be 13 soon.

Deborah is the only one of my children who is religious.  She told me about her religious experiences and feelings, and while I don’t share these, I can understand and take an interest.  What I find more difficult to comprehend (she knows this) is her allegiance to the Catholic Church, which interferes in secular matters and takes political positions that she and I both disagree with strongly.

We got home tired.  I spent the night at Deborah’s where we had bacon and eggs at 11:30 P.M. in Debbie’s kitchen which had been made spotlessly clean by Chris.  The next day, Sunday, I drove home to my Jerry, my poodles and my cat.

The strawberries I planted before I left were sprouting happily.

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Eastward bound

I want to thank each of you who were so kind as to wish me a happy birthday.  All those good wishes made the day, in memory which is where all days are, a wonderful birthday.

Tomorrow I will be off on my delayed birthday trip to the east.  My lawyer daughter, Deborah, is going with me.  She is good at escorting old ladies about.

Lawyer Daughter

Lawyer Daughter

We will visit my two sons, her two brothers.  It will be a “flying” trip in every sense.  We will fly east, spend 2 days with each son and then fly back home.  Lawyer daughter has to be in court for 2 hearings on Monday.

The youngest son lives in Atlanta (more specifically, south of Atlanta near Peachtree City).  He is married to a nurse, Katie, who is studying to be a nurse anesthetist.

Katie

Katie

They have 2 totally adorable children: a girl named Jamison who is 7 and a boy named Alexander who is 3.  My son, Ben, is a chef.

Jameson

Jamison

I took this picture of Jamison last year.

Alex

Alex

This is a picture of Alexander taken at the same time.

Deborah and I will rent a car and drive south to the oldest, Stevie ( Steve to the rest of the world) who lives in Charleston, South Carolina.  He is married to Michelle.  He is a doctor, and his wife is in what I believe is now called Human Resources, but which used to be called personnel.

Michelle

Michelle

Stevie is 19 years older than Ben, but they are good friends.  Both can be funny in a wacky sort of way, and they play well together.

Ben and Steve

Ben and Steve

This picture was taken on Ben’s wedding day 10 years ago.

Steve and Ben

Steve and Ben

This picture was taken 4 years ago at Ben’s father’s funeral.  Note the reversal of whiskers.

I will have lots to tell when I get back home to my Jerry, my poodles Daisy and Fluffy, my cat Heloise, my house and my garden (which is bursting with growth because of the warm winter and early spring.)

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My day of self-absorption

Yesterday was my birthday.  I was 78 years old.  Birthdays were always events as I grew up.  My mother was usually offended with somebody on her birthday, often with me because I often forgot the day.  As we both got older I remembered it more and so she was usually offended at someone else rather than at me.  Ours is a big family so somebody almost always forgot.

I tried to de-emphasize birthdays.  That made life easier for me, since I am not good at remembering other peoples’.  I never feel offended with my friends or my children if they don’t remember my birthday.  They are busy, and besides, I often forget theirs.

But my husband is a different matter.  Husbands should remember their wives’ birthdays.  My husbands of the past generally remembered and took notice.  Although my husband of the present, Jerry, is my favorite husband, he is a birthday problem.

A little of his history and character will help explain.  I am his third wife.  His second marriage was a long and happy one.  His wife had died shortly before I met him.  She was a strong, intelligent organized creative and sensible woman.  He is much the same.  Together they were practical, unsentimental and frugal.  They didn’t do holidays or birthdays which they regarded as ways that commercial interests get people to needlessly spend money.

My family and I, frivolous lot that we are, often make a big fuss over birthdays and holidays (and just as often forget them).

So on this birthday I got a card from one daughter (she will do more on her own schedule – she is a busy lawyer) and a call from my British daughter.  I got an email from one grandchild, a call from my cousin in New Zealand, a card from my sister (one for “Sister” with flowers and glitter on it) and a card from my insurance agent.

Jerry woke me up at 5:30 in the morning and said “Happy Birthday.”   I went back to sleep, and when I woke again at 7 I could see that no more was to be said or done about it.  I struggled not to sulk.

I washed my hair, put on my favorite pants and a pink tunic and a necklace.  I thought I should look well groomed on my birthday.  Jerry made my tea as he always does, and we caught the 10 o’clock ferry to town to see our tax person to get our taxes done.

I thought that Tracy, our friend and tax lady, would notice that it was my birthday.  But she didn’t, so I pointed it out.  She immediately congratulated me, and we went on with the work at hand.  After a while she remarked that we would get a refund.  “Well,” I said looking meaningfully at Jerry, “There’s a birthday present.”

When we left I said to Jerry (with damp eyes and a little quiver in my voice), “It hurts my feelings when you ignore my birthday.”

He said, sadly, “I would do something, but I just can’t think what.  I could take you out to breakfast.  I could get you flowers, but you already got them yourself” (I had bought a bunch of daffodils at the grocery store a couple of days before.)

I pointed out that we already had breakfast.  We went to Costco to get allergy pills.  I lingered at the flowers in Costco, gazing miserably at them.  He noticed, and asked, nervously, “Do you want me to get you some flowers?  If so, you’ll have to pick them out.  I don’t know what to get.”

I sighed deeply, and with my best martyr attitude said, “You don’t have to get me flowers.”

I had been considering my birthday dinner.  My friend Gwen had suggested that Jerry take me out to dinner on Valentine’s Day, which he had done, so I knew I wasn’t due for a dinner out, and didn’t really want it anyhow.  But I thought of getting lobster tails which Costco usually has.  I found 2 small lobster tails for an appetizer, with plans for steak as a second course.  I rethought the flowers, and told Jerry I would have some.  I picked them out.  (Red carnations: they last a long time and the roses looked a bit tired.)  Once, a couple of years ago, Jerry bought me roses – without being asked to.

Then we bought the New York Times and went to Barns and Noble for a latte.  (Barnes and Noble doesn’t sell newspapers any more which makes it less desirable as a stop to avoid waits at the ferry.)  At B and N I bought a book of poetry by Billy Collins.  My mood was improving, and I said to Jerry, “Don’t worry, tomorrow I’ll be back to normal.  It won’t be my birthday for another year.”  Since it was Monday, I had the cross word puzzle finished by the time we got to the ferry dock.

At home I went inside to let the dogs out.  They squeaked ecstatically.  Jerry brought the stuff in from the car.

“Oh, you bought me flowers! How sweet of you!” I said.  We laughed and embraced.

I mixed the carnations with the daffodils and some white iberis from the garden and put them on the table.

Birtheay flowers

Birtheay flowers

We lay down for a nap and my British daughter called to say happy birthday.  I said, “I’m so glad you called.  I can’t tell from your blog how you really are.  It sounds so cheerful.  Are you really that cheerful?”

“I’m in the Pub, Muth, on my cell phone.”  This child doesn’t reveal much, but I think she sounded pretty cheerful.  She said nothing much was happening.  We had a nice chat.

Then Jerry and I went for our afternoon walk with the dogs.  At our beach we found our friend Larry pulling his boat up the beach.  It had been damaged by a log in extra high tides.  We lingered in the sunshine and discussed island politics for a few minutes.  I told Larry that it was my birthday, and he wished me a happy birthday.

On the way home Jerry and I discussed national politics.  We agreed that the health care industry is not a “market” as the Republicans seem to think.  When we got home I cooked an artichoke.  While I was cooking dinner Jerry wrapped his arms around me, which he often does, and refers to it as “messing with the cook.” For dinner we had, first, the artichoke, then the lobster tails.  They were good, but not as good as Maine lobsters.  Then we had T-bone steak, cooked outside on the grill, and salad.  A close to perfect dinner.

Later I tried to watch the Olympics, because I like to see the ice dancing.  But there were just too many commercials.  I really think there are more commercials than actual competitions shown.

Today I am back to normal.  A whole year before I’m 79.

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Life drawing

Since I was a child I have loved to draw.  I wanted to grow up to be an artist, but I didn’t manage to do that until late in life.

My mother was excessive in her praise and delight at my early drawings.  She and my stepfather gave me a blackboard and colored chalks and many other drawing materials.  The blackboard was on the wall of my bedroom where I spent hours making elaborate colored pictures on it.  I had a fat book on how to draw, and a big wooden desk with lots of drawers filled with colored paper and pencils, paste, scissors, glitter, stickers, decals, tape, ribbon and more.  Sometimes my mother would call to me, “What are you doing, Anne?” and I would answer, “I’m making things.”

Then, when I was 10, my sister was born, and I had to sleep on the sofa.  I wasn’t allowed in my bedroom where the baby was because I had germs.  We moved, my stepfather became increasingly hostile to me, and when my sister was about 9 months old I asked to be allowed to live with my aunt and uncle where I had stayed for extended periods in earlier years.

This sounds more complaining than I intend.  That was a difficult time for all of us.  There was a new baby, we lived in a 2 bedroom apartment, the war came and my stepfather was called to Washington for a government job.  He was head of wage stabilization at the War Labor Board.  He was a volatile man who drank too much, but he and I made peace after I grew up, and he eventually became a nice old man.

In Andover, living with my aunt and uncle, I rapidly become adolescent.  My uncle was the director of an art gallery, the Addison Gallery of American Art.  He was quite big in the art world, and for a while was on the board of the Smithsonian.  Famous artists came to lunch and generally hung around.  My aunt had been to the Ecole des Beaux-Arts in Paris before she was married, and she painted and drew in a disorganized way, making beautiful beginnings but becoming distracted by futile attempts at housekeeping or serving afternoon tea or taking the poodles for a walk.  I drew with her.

My uncle was very critical of both of us.  In my opinion he had little reason to discourage my aunt.  Her work was lovely and had a delicate, whimsical, feminine strength.  But it wasn’t modern. My drawings were childish and my uncle said I had no talent.  He urged me to become a writer.

When I was growing up progressive thinkers were beginning to advocate that women have independent careers.  I was told I should be able to earn a living.  Artists were supposed to starve so I shouldn’t go to art school.

When I went to college I first majored in speech.  After a year I gave that up and majored in art history.  Then I got pregnant and got married (yes, in that order) and when I went back to college I had 3 babies.  My husband said there was no money in art.  He was a political science professor, so for a brief while I majored in political science.  I really wanted to major in anthropology, but I couldn’t see how I could do field work with 3 babies.  I took zoology in order to satisfy the science requirement.  The first part of the course was the study of invertebrate animals, and in the lab we drew little creatures we saw in the microscope.  I loved it.  The teacher was a tough dry spinster who made no effort to entertain.  She just gave the facts.  I was fascinated by the facts.  I majored in zoology and did graduate work in biology.

I went to art school when I was over 50.  By that time I was married for the third time to a prosperous lawyer who could afford to support an artist.

I have been drawing and painting off and on ever since.  From time to time I have been distracted by other things — house building, gardening, caring for the sick and dying.  And I do not really blame my elders for my failure to persevere in art.  My interests were fragmented and diverse, and I was apt to make sudden decisions, embarking on life changing programs without thinking carefully.  I am still fragmented.  I read science and novels and cookbooks and I visit children and friends and grow plants and take trips.  In between I draw.  But I am lazy, and I never concentrate fully enough to get really proficient.

Now I am taking a course in figure drawing at the local community college.  I am learning new things.  The teacher actually has a method, something I didn’t get in art school.  My drawing is improving.  Here are some of the things I have been working on lately.

mixed media

mixed media

mixed media

mixed media

These are 2 pieces I am working on as a birthday present for my British daughter.  I drew the figures from life in ink on paper that I had printed with scraps of ink and old stencils.  Then I drew with colored pencils, almost doodle drawings, to integrate and unify the images.  The process reminded me of times in childhood when I “made things” from pretty junk.

Here are some of the drawings from my current art class.

charcoal on newsprint

charcoal on newsprint

charcoal on newsprint

charcoal on newsprint

charcoal on newsprint

charcoal on newsprint

charcoal on newsprint

charcoal on newsprint

I have done no drawing or painting for a week.  I have been distracted again by life, by a whirlwind visit from my friend Gwen.  But that is my next post!

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The end, we hope, of the ferry tale

It seems that the Tribe and the County have reached an agreement in principle, details to be worked out.  The ferry will continue to run its 5 minute passage to Gooseberry Point.  It will not have to make an hour run to Fairhaven.  A new 25 year lease will be negotiated with the Tribe, with another 25 year renewal option.  We first heard about this on the 4th.

It came out in a news release by the county and later at a meeting with the Lummi Indians held here on the island in the school gym.  The Tribe requested the meeting.   The meeting was called before the lease agreement was announced, which caused some people to worry that there might be angry words from some islanders who felt strongly that they had been wronged.  But everything was good fellowship and peace.  The meeting was packed, with standing room only for late comers.  There was a powerpoint presentation by a member of the Lummi Nation Ferry Task Force.

I couldn’t attend, because I was being frivolous,  and spent the day in Seattle at the flower show.  I went down with 2 friends and we got home on the 9 o’clock ferry.  Although the meeting had ended about 8:30, we saw people in suits walking off the ferry as we were loading, and we figured they were lawyers or the press, attendees at the meeting.

I persuaded Jerry to go to the meeting.  He was late and stood in the back with our friend Ria.  Both of them are deaf, so I didn’t get much useful information about what was said from them.  Jerry said that the man who gave the talk was clearly educated and spoke well.  One commenter said that he expressed himself with “dignity and clarity and candor.”  He apologized to the islanders for the worry and stress that this situation has caused .

He explained the reasons the Tribe doesn’t like the ferry.  Mostly it is traffic and damage from the wake.  The Lummi’s want to build a Marina where the dock is, and they want the dock moved, but not moved very far.  That will not happen for some years, and will be part of the ongoing negotiations.

There was talk of the tribal culture, about close ties within the community, about their ongoing struggles to get the county to address their needs and concerns.  And, finally, some reminiscences from an 85 year old Indian elder.  I’m quoting here from an article by Tip Johnson


“I’m telling you a story now and you don’t have to believe it.  My dad loaded fish at the (Lummi Island) cannery and my mom cut them.  The story goes that mom was working and started having labor pains, and not from her labor at the cannery.  So she went out to go up to one of the shacks, but she didn’t make it.  They say I was born on the beach, but I don’t care if it’s true.  I’m back in my old hometown.”

“I built my own house and I’m a fisherman, not a carpenter. Don’t ask me how it looks, ’cause I’m not tellin.’  My five kids grew up there and I didn’t go back to school until I was thirty eight.”

“I been working with the Lummi all my life.  I got the papers to prove it but I don’t want to pack them around.  I was around for the first ferry negotiations.  We offered the County a lease for $160 a month and, you know, they asked if we could knock it down to $100. Anyway, we don’t want to put anyone in jeaopardy or hurt. We want to be friends. I’m happy to be here. This is my home.”

The man who told this story had been taken from his family and sent away to a boarding school where he was beaten for speaking the Lummi language.  He did not see his family for years.

This meeting took place on Thursday night.  On Monday night there was another meeting at which about 200 islanders heard the report of the lawyers they had hired to represent the interests those who live or work on the island.

Not all islanders favored hiring lawyers.  A lawyer who lives here was particularly vocal in her disapproval.  She said we have no legal standing.  She felt it would be a waste of money.  She said the County should be doing this.  Others said that the county was not doing its job.  The failed lease was evidence of that.

I was, alas, not at the lawyer meeting either, so I am relying on others’ reports.  Here’s what I think was said.

The lawyers examined the lease (which was obtained for them by a group of islanders).  The lease was agreed to by the Lummis in exchange for some money and some land.  They have constructed some Tribal buildings on the ceded land.  The lawyers said that if the the dock part of the lease agreement wasn’t valid, then probably none of the agreement was valid, including the land transfers, especially since the lands transferred were not put into a Bureau of Indian Affairs trust. 

The lawyers also said that there is valid right-of-way to Lummi Island through the reservation that had been established in about 1925.

These findings were quietly revealed to both the County and the Tribe, and the result seems to be that both sides abruptly became more reasonable and we now have a tentative settlement.

I was not sure it was wise to hire lawyers.  I think I was wrong.  They seem to have been a help in resolving this difficult problem.  And it all goes to show that opposing groups function better when each side has some bargaining chips and everyone knows the facts.  Then there’s time for friendship and understanding and empathy with other people’s problems.

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The picture on the east wall

I am in the process of redecorating the other side of my house, my duplex-in-the-woods.  I am making a plan, coordinating colors (sort of) and removing things that may not be suitable for the random summer tenant.  For a long time that side was the dumping place for stuff I couldn’t think of what to do with.  There are some old filing cabinets, books on economics that belonged to my mother, a redundancy of corkscrews, a bulky old television set, a 50 year old radio with the tuning stuck on a station that plays loud rock and roll.  And, of course, the furniture that I didn’t want in my side.

The most difficult item to remove was a large (over 7 feet long and over 3 feet high) picture.  It hung in the larger of the 2 bedrooms of the apartment because that was a place with a long enough wall.  It is a heavy picture and it took 2 men to hang it, and thus took 2 men to move it.

Some people find the subject matter of the picture disturbing.  One summer I had a tenant who found it so objectionable that she asked me to cover it with a drape.

It consists of 3 individual monotypes hung together to make a single image.  It was done by one of my teachers in art school.  I first saw it in an exhibition at the High Museum of Art in Atlanta.  The artist was at that time a young, pretty woman, a fine teacher, an exceptional artist, and something of a feminist.  Nevertheless, she was married and had a very cute little girl called Emma.  The artist, Cheryl Burgess, must now be middle aged, and Emma must be grown up.

The title of the picture is “His Kiss” and is one of a group of works that Cheryl referred to as her “beast” series.  The image consists of 2 figures.  There is a supine, insipidly lime-green submissive female figure being mounted by a huge hairy red and black male beast-like creature that is kissing her neck and tweaking her in other places.

Here’s the picture.  It was difficult to photograph because it was hung so high up.  That’s the reason for the distorted shape of the frame.

His Kiss by Cherly Burgess

His Kiss by Cherly Burgess

When our friend Hans was here to clean the gutters I asked him to help Jerry move the picture to our side of the duplex, where it now hangs on the east wall of the dining room.  This is by far the biggest expanse of wall on either side.  The wall extends up to the second story loft, and the picture is hung over 2 windows.  Thus, it is overhead and well above eye level.

The east wall

The east wall

Through the windows is a view of the woods and through the woods in the morning one can see the sun rise over Mt. Baker.

Hans is the husband of an artist, and has opinions about art.  He nodded approval and said he liked it.  Though Jerry had never expressed an opinion, I was pretty sure he didn’t care much for it; but when it was hung in the dining room and we all stood back I read his face (as I have learned to do.) I saw a glimmer of approval.

I thought it looked terrific.

It needed the distance of the big dining room-kitchen for one to appreciate its artistic merits.

The next test will be tomorrow night.  Eight people, good island friends, are coming for dinner.  Jerry said, “Let’s see how long it takes them to notice.”

I’ll let you know.

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